You win some you lose some. Everyone knows at the end of a season there is a winner and a loser. But, why does every child get a participation trophy if there is only one winner? Children should learn how to cope with failure, it is an important aspect of life. Coping with failure is something kids should have the opportunity to learn because it is an important aspect in life.Many kids are getting trophies just for showing up. There has to be an age in life when you stop getting things handed to you.
Children need to experience loss and learn from the lessons that come with it, along with the value of working hard to achieve success. Are kids only motivated by the trophy or medals they will get at the end of a season? Is that the sole reason they participate in so many activists as a kid? Trophies were once rare. Now, everyone is given a trophy for participation. Awards can be powerful motivators but nonstop recognition does not inspire children to succeed.
Trophies has marked victories for centuries. According to How products are made “In Ancient Greece trophies reflected victory in war and were created on the battlefield at the place where the enemy had been defeated. The winner would also receive an amphora with sacred olive oil.” The oldest sports trophy was a horse racing trophy called the Carlisle Bells, dating back to 1559 and 1599, first awarded by Elizabeth I. In the ABC’s of trophies thy explain that, “The ancient Romans kept their trophies closer to home. The Romans built magnificent trophies in Rome, including columns and arches atop a foundation. Most of the stone trophies that once adorned huge stone memorials in Rome have been long since stolen.”Today trophies are given out more frequently and are less expensive to make.
Parents now of days over praise their children too much. While that is good for the child’s self-esteem, it is not when the child thinks they are better than everyone. Merryman’s view on this topic, “Kids already have high self-esteem…
.when parents regularly overpraised their children’s performances, and their children were more likely to be narcissistic two year later.” However children with low self-esteem feel that they cannot live up to their parents expectations. According to Nelson “Just giving out trophies without explaining invites all kinds of problems.” These ideas can catch up with them later in life, by not being able to deal with losing because all they know is winning. Stanford psychology professor Carol Dweck says “Kids should not be given trophies simply for participating” she goes on to explain through her own experiences saying, “Her daughter rarely showed up for her soccer team. She had terrible attitude and in spite of that, at the end she got a giant trophy and would have been devastated had she not.
” It is sad to think that kids are not happy unless they get a plastic trophy even when they have a bad attitude about playing. Children seem to be lacking the drive and discipline, they assume that everything is going to be handed to them. If people let children lose and taught them how to congratulate those who won, it would help them build the endurance needed to face life challenges. Participation trophies can send a dangerous message to children, saying “we are all winners”. This message is is conveyed after every sports season, year after year, and is reinforced by trophies that pile up. Children begin to expect awards for just showing up.
Is this what parents are teaching their children, you get a trophy for being present. The value of getting a trophy is being diminished when they are being handed out like candy. Trophies are not tokens of a true achievement, they are merely an experience that has happened. According to Berdan she believes that, “People should change how they reward children. Trophies should be given out for first, second and third; participation should be recognized, but celebrated with words and a pat on the back rather than a trophy.
” (Participation Trophies Send a Dangerous Message) Parents need to teach their children there is more to life than winning. Losing a game is a valuable experience. Do trophies you get when your young, form you, or do they spoil you and make you think losing is acceptable?