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The
world is a very interesting and a diverse place to live in. Cultural diversity
makes our country a more interesting to live in because every day we learn more
and gain more knowledge about the ways of being of other cultures that are not
necessarily our own. Marriage, for example, is one of the most important
occasions throughout the world. It is one of the most natural practice of life
that we see everywhere we go and everywhere in the world despite the diversity
of culture and lifestyle. Traditions are quite similar, but the meaning and
practices of weddings held by different cultures vary greatly. Wedding
traditions and practices are not just limited to wearing beautiful and
elaborate white gowns, cutting sweet and grand cakes, and throwing bouquets.
Other countries have their own wedding customs that they practice. Most
countries have some form of wedding ceremonies which are special and celebrates
the joining of two people who love each other. Because there is a wide variety
of different cultural backgrounds in the world, there is a wide variety of
marriage customs and rituals but the joining of two people to be legally bound
together for the rest of their lives remains the same.

It
is important for everyone to know the importance and meaning of marriage and
where it originated from. Throughout the years, Korean marriage have gone
through different development and changes. Marriage in Korea is considered a very
important ceremony that shapes and changes a person’s status, morality, and identity.
Almost everyone in Korea especially the women were expected to be married by
the time they reach the age twenty or thirty. People often feel sorry and tries
to help those who can’t get married to make sure that they find their future husbands.
Families and friends often contribute to make sure that everyone gets married.
Various travelers accounts and ethnography suggested that “marriage has been an
abiding Korean preoccupation” (Kendall, 4).  Matchmaking and matchmade weddings are common
and popular since the 1980’s and is still common today.

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Every
country has its own customs. For example, Korea and U.S have different wedding
traditions such as wedding attires and practices. Although getting married is
about two individuals who marry out of love like in America, in Korea, many
people see marriage as a union of two families. It is crucial for Koreans to
ask for parents’ consent before someone gets married. It is more likely that
the wedding will not take place if the parents don’t approve, unlike other
countries, parents don’t have much control of who their child choose to spend
the rest of their lives with. For most Koreans, weddings are taken seriously.
Most marriages are often done by professional matchmakers and others find their
spouse through arranged meetings made by parents and friends and online dating
sites. Weddings are generally based on social status, wealth, and family
lineage. Marriage is also taken very seriously because it is considered
disrespectful and revolting for a person to never marry. In Korea, males are
often regarded as children or boys until they get married. An Englishwoman who
traveled in Korea during the 1980s claimed that ” a man gains the
reputation of being a neglectful father who allows his son to reach the age of
twenty unmarried” (Neff,2014).

In
the article Life in Korea, hosting Korean weddings are quite stressful. Both
the bride and groom have a lot to prepare before finally performing the actual
wedding ceremony. The first step is called “Eui Hon” (matchmaking)
when both the bride and grooms’ families discuss the marriage and they can
either accept of decline. The parents are usually the ones who decide for their
children. If both families decline, the wedding won’t take place but if they
agree, they move on to the second step which is “Napchae” or date
setting. The grooms’ family would prepare a “Saju,” which specifies
the year, month, date and the exact hour of the groom’s birth according to the
lunar calendar and then delivered to the bride’s family. They seal the envelope
with bamboo branches then tie it with a red and blue thread. This allows the
fortune teller to determined which date is best for the wedding to be held. The
last step is called Napp’ae where the groom’s family sends presents to the
bride and her family which contains red bean rice cakes and Honseol which is
marriage paper. This is different from America because in Korea the bride and
the groom haven’t met each other and barely knew each other and can’t see each
other until the day of the ceremony. In the U.S, couples have known each other
for quite a long time and can even live together.

Traditionally,
Korean weddings takes place at the house of the bride’s family. The groom
usually rides a horse or a pony to the bride’s house or wherever the wedding is
being taken. This is different because in America, weddings are held at
churches and the bridesmaids, grooms’ men, ring bearer and flower girl usually walks
down the aisle and the bride usually walks down the aisle with her parents.
Gifts are also and have remained an important part of every culture and
weddings throughout the years. In Korea, the groom usually gives his mother in
law a live goose or wooden goose which symbolizes fidelity and faithfulness to
his bride. Vows are often taken in a ceremony called kunbere. The way Koreans
exchange their vows to each other is quite different to an American wedding.
Koreans usually bow to each other to show respect and loyalty and seal their
vows by sipping a special wine grown by the bride’s mother. American weddings
are different because they exchange vows/speeches and exchange rings to show
their love for each other

In
America, a widow has the choice to either remarry or not. In Korea, girls
biggest fear is the thought of being widowed early. They face a lifetime of
loneliness because they are unable to remarry. In Korea, the bride’s family can
sometimes go to extreme to protect their children and their significant other.
They often do something called a sham marriage. On the day before the real
wedding, a young boy is “lured to the bride-to-be’s home and forced to
partake in a mock wedding with her” and “strangled and then later that
night, his body was smuggled out and buried or left in the open for wild dogs
and animals to feed on ” (Neff, 2014). It is believed that through this
process, “the prophecy of the bride becoming a young widow would be
fulfilled and her real marriage the following day would be blessed” (Neff,
2014).

In America, everybody
knows or have heard the saying or phrase “something new, something borrowed,
something blue, a sixpence in your shoe” (Pepperell) in which something new
symbolizes the bride’s prosperity and good fortune and something borrowed
reminds the bride that her family will be there to help her and will always be there
for her, and something blue represents her loyalty and faithfulness to her
husband and sixpence in your shoe means something that is borrowed from a
friend which could double the bride’s luck. This phrase originated from
Victorian England and this helps bring luck on the bride’s wedding day and the
beginning of her new life. In an American wedding, the bride usually wears
elaborate white wedding gown and the groom wears tuxedo. In Korea, the bride
and the groom both wears a Hanbok, which is the traditional clothing of Korea.
The bride also wears a “Wonsam” which is a top coat with flowing sleeves
similar to those worn by queens and nobles. Red circles the size of nickels is
placed on the bride’s face which are supposed to ward off evil spirits.  At the end of the ceremony pyebaek is done to
emphasize the importance of family within the culture. During the pyebaek,
dates and chestnuts are given to the bride. The parents of the groom then throw
the fruits and the bride catches it with her skirt. This represents the
fertility of the bride and how much children she will have later on. In
America, cutting the cake serves as a sweet end to the wedding and also for
luck. Cutting the wedding cake “represents the beginning of the couple’s
life together.” (Wedding Traditions in the United States) Other wedding
traditions in America involves tossing the garter and the bouquet. Both
American and Korean have different traditions 

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