MarriageDefinition: Marriage is a legal or formallyrecognized union between two people (Man and woman). Introduction:Marriage is verysensitive as well as a very strong holy relationship between man and women forlifetime. It is a kind of that love bond and that loveable relationship inwhich husband and wife spend every life moment with each other.
They sharetheir happiness, sorrows and love with each other. It’s not only the union oftwo peoples but also the union of two perspective families. Sometimes marriageis arranged and sometimes it depends on likeness by both partners. Everycountry has its own marriage traditions and culture values, but one thing issame all over the globe that is ‘LOVE’. Traditions can be different but love issame.
Here we will discuss marriage customs andtraditions of Pakistan and culture. Marriage traditions of Pakistan and Chinaare totally different. Below is the detailed discussion of it. Firstly I willdiscuss Pakistani marriage culture.Body:Pakistani marriagehas many events given below.
1. Beforemarriage· Searchfor proposal· Proposal· Engagement2. Wedding· Dholkibefore few days of wedding· Ubtan· Rasmeheena· Marriageceremony· Nikkah· AarsiMushaf Dikhana· Rukhsati· Dinner· Gifts· Waleema3. Honeymoon· Shab-e-Zifaf4. RegionalVariations· Attan· Baraat· Bijjar· Dastarbandi· Dholki· Doodhpilai · Haldi· Jolbandi· Maklava· Mobaraki· Paondhulai· Saami5. ReligiousCustoms· HaqMahr6. Marriagesongs7. ReferencesSearchfor proposal: For wedding of boy or girl a searchis usually done by family members.
And this effort is done by any matrimonialsites or relatives or third party member. But now-a-days this trend is losingpopularity. Boys and girls now-a-days select their partners by themselves andgo to court for marriage because they have their own mindset and both familymembers are against of it. Some marriages are arranged by parents and bothpartners understand each other and compromise with each other for themselvesand for their family. Some marriages are arranged and there is likeness fromboth sides, both partners told to their parents and they send proposal to girlshome and they accept and marry both of them, it’s called semi arrangedmarriage.Proposal:Once a decision has been taken thengrooms family send proposal message to brides home.
And grooms family paypotential visit to brides home, and the first visit is purely for the partiesto acquaint with one another and for formal proposal. Then after that visitboth families decide whether they like or dislike each other or not. If both ofthem like each other than proposal message sent to brides home for her hand inmarriage, where elder members of groom’s family asked to bride’s family formarriage proposal. After acceptance both families, grooms family give gifts tobride and brides family offer sweets to grooms family to start a newrelationship not only for boys and girls but also for new two families.
Different kinds of beverages and refreshments are served by bride’s family inhappiness for new life.Engagement:After few days or months ofaccepting marriage proposal from both sides a ceremony is held by both familiesto mark the engagement of couple and is called engagement or mangni in Urdulanguage. It is a small family function in which just couple families areinvolved and they exchange rings to each other. In traditional values bothcouple don’t sit together, families elder members do this ceremony and exchangerings between boy and girl.
Then a prayer and blessings are recited for the coupleand the wedding date is decided.