I was awaken by a clamor in the middle of the night– someone was
rummaging through my closet. I had a moment of panic, then realized this person
was my roommate Gayathri. This was my first quarter at UCSD as a transfer
student, living in an apartment with five other women, busy as an International
Business student could be, with heavy coursework and extracurricular. I was mostly
on campus, and came home to sleep.
I was fond of Gayathri, she was easy going and down to earth, or so it
seemed. Later did I come to find out she was a kleptomaniac.
One afternoon, I was looking for my blazer but I could not seem to
find it anywhere. Soon, a jacket went missing, then a blouse. Then my money
disappeared. I did not think too much of it since I just moved into a new place.
I figured I had misplaced my clothes and cash, and that they would turn up
I saw Gayathri wearing one of my dresses which I could not find in my
closet anywhere. I decided to take a look in her closet, I found all my missing
clothes along with some of my books, and jewelry. I was shocked, she had taken
advantage of the fact that I was barely in my room.
I knew she had financial burdens, so I tried my best to come up with
possibilities as to why she would have stolen from me. I asked my parents,
sister, and best friends for advice. I chose to talk to these individuals
specifically because I trusted their advice.
They told me to confront her, but to only
make claims I could back up. As mentioned in the reading I rehearsed what I was
going to say to her. I did as I was advised and Gayathri immediately began
denying she took anything. I showed her the picture I had taken and had my housemates
as witnesses. She eventually, caved and admitted she did steal and claimed she
had a mental problem and enjoyed stealing. None of us felt safe with her living
with us and had her removed from the lease, and notified campus police and
Dealing with this situation taught me that next time I should do a
background check on potential roommates and set guidelines and boundaries. In
this situation I wish I had known about her problem so I could find solutions
to better resolve the issue and also understand that it may not be something
she can control on her own. The best course of action is to always stay
cognizant and if you notice something is wrong, try to address the problem