Being a Member of a Family Presents Numerous Challenges

Introduction:  

Hook In the human society, a family is a group of persons conglomerated through consanguinity, affinity – through marriage or co-residence. Having a good family is an important part of living as it provides persons with moral, social and financial support among others. 

Directions of Argument Today, balancing between work and family has become an immense challenge among numerous families. Due to the increased economic challenges in today’s society, most parents are mandated to work for long hours to achieve their financial objectives. 

Thesis Statement This essay is a discussion of why being a member of a family presents numerous challenges today due to the increased need to work for long hours to satisfy the family day-to-day financial demands. 

Argument 1#: Topic Sentence The escalating cost of essential services such as education and healthcare services in U.S. has increased significantly over the last decade. 

Point 1: This has resulted to numerous couples working in different jobs for long hours in an effort to afford such amenities for their families. 

Proof: According to the United States Bureau of Statistics, in numerous married couple relations, both spouses work (Bureau of Labor Statistics, 2002). In 2000, approximately 53.2 percent of married spouses were employed (Bureau of Labor Statistics, 2002). 

Explanation As a result, most couples find it a challenge to balance between their demanding professions and their families. 

Point 2: Today, the roles of men and women in the American society has reversed. 

Proof: According to an article published in the New York Times, 4 in every 10 households with children under 18 includes a mother who is either the primary or the sole breadwinner in the homestead (Rampbell, 2013). 

Explanation This is because unlike in the past, more women today have taken up various roles in the society that were previously reserved for men. Such roles include leadership positions, formal employments, army and management positions among others. In reference to such jobs, some of the professions that women engage in can be very demanding. For instance, a soldier woman can go for months without being in a position to see her family. 

Point 3: The evolution of organized childcare managed support services for working mothers in the U.S. has also hampered the ability of persons to be with their families. 

Proof: In the U.S., one-third of all children belonging to employed mothers attain managed care services in organized facilities like the day care centers (CHUSA, 2014).  

Explanation For this reason, a significant number of parents prefer to leave their young children in managed care centers and then use their time to perform other economic functions. In most cases, such functions entail working for long hours to earn some income. 

Conclusion:

Restatement of Thesis Today, being a member of the family has become a big challenge to most parents due to the need to work for long hours so as to satisfy the family day-to-day financial demands.

Direction of Arguments #1). The need to work for long hours has been facilitated by the increased costs of essential services such as education and healthcare services in the nation. 

#2). The role of women in the American society has also changed and today, a large proportion of women are working for long hours in professions that were previously reserved for the men. 

#3). The emergence of management childcare services has enabled women to work for long hours in the fields of career. 

Final Thought It is evident that most persons in the American society find it a challenge to be with their families. This is because most of them work for long hours in an effort to fulfill the financial obligations for their family members. Nevertheless, it is important for every person to be part of a family unit. This is because it aids in their successful growth as well as development. 

References

Bureau of Labor Statistics. (2002). Both spouses work in most married-couple families. Retrieved November 21, 2016, from The Bureau of Labor Statistics: http://www.bls.gov/opub/ted/2001/apr/wk4/art02.htm  

CHUSA. (2014). Parental Employment and Child Care. Retrieved November 23, 2016, from Child Health USA 2014: http://mchb.hrsa.gov/chusa14/population-characteristics/parental-employment-child-care.html

Rampbell, C. (2013, May 29). U.S. Women on the Rise as Family Breadwinner. Retrieved November 23, 2016, from The New York Times: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/05/30/business/economy/women-as-family-breadwinner-on-the-rise-study-says.html 

Conflict management

When there is more than one individual in a particular place, there is always high chances that conflict may arise. For effective utilization of conflict resolution strategies, it mainly depends on one’s ability and skills that relate to conflict styles and resolution. Research has shown many ways that could be used to respond to conflict cases; where some of the conflict styles may involve a considerate or cooperative approach and other may be competitive or passive approach (Rahim, 2001). Thus, the main aim of this paper is to address the various conflict management styles under different given situations.

My primary conflict management style is compromising style. Under this type of style, a lot of courage, assertiveness, and cooperation is required from the parties concerned. In addition, compromising involves ideally working with the other person in order to find a common solution that fully satisfies and addresses concerns of both parties. Basically, the style involves looking at an issue in order to evaluate the common interests that both parties lay concern on, disregarding the differences and finding a middle ground to address a particular problem (Rahim, 2001).

In addition, the parties involved strives to ensure that a settlement is reached, which is important to prevent any further conflict from occurring. Therefore, compromising style could be best address interpersonal conflict, which is a conflict that occurs between two people. This could be as a result of different personalities, choices, preferences, and emotions that people have. On the other hand, collaborating style can prove to be ineffective in a case that involves intrapersonal conflict. This is due to the fact that interpersonal conflict is a problem affecting an individual, while the conflict management style in this case (compromising ) best works for a conflict involving more than one party (Fenn, 2012).  

My least preferred style of conflict management is competing/ controlling style. Under this style, one aims at pursuing and achieving own concern or ambition. In other words, this type of conflict management style is a power-oriented mode, where an individual uses the resources and power available to gain over the others (Fenn, 2012). Thus, competing may, therefore, mean standing for your right and any other thing that one believes to be correct. Still, interpersonal conflict cannot be best addressed and solved under competing style. Competing style can be best functional in a group.

In order to encourage the use of competing for style, for example in an organizational setup, I would encourage the individuals on the importance that such a style has, and the situations that it could best serve (Holmes, 2001). Thus, the team and group leaders should encourage their team and group members on the underlying benefits achieved once this type of style is used. On the other hand, in cases where my most preferred style may be dysfunctional, I would confidently advise the individuals’ to use other alternative styles that are available.

When done effectively, improving the conflict management behaviors can turn to be of high importance. There are several ways that one could use to improve conflict management behaviors. For instance, identify conflict situations, remember the situations where the correct strategy was not used, think and evaluate how the practice used can effectively manage the conflict, engage in practice and evaluate the performance (Holmes, 2001). This could be in conditions where there is a conflict at different levels of an organization. Thus, in a given organization setup, improvement of conflict management behaviors can be of importance since a worthy a less-conflict environment might be achieved. A better relationship, increased output, and proper working environment might be achieved once the conflict management behaviors are improved.

In conclusion, it is clear that conflicting style is the type of management style that is best suitable to fully address and solve a problem between to individuals. The issue is solved by finding a common ground to solve the problem at hand. In addition, competing for style can be used to solve a challenge that may arise in a power related issue. Thus, different conflict managing style solves the problems that arises in different situations, especially in an organization setup.

Criticism speech

While being a working mom is something that I envy and would one day love doing, like any other activity done by people in the modern day today, this has received its fair share of criticism. Ranging from positive to negative criticism, the whole idea of being a working mom merits great concerns both at a personal and at a societal level. Commonly, critics have it that being a working mom means compromising their role as a mother which involves actively taking care of their children and their families. Also, critics have gone to extreme levels of questioning the parenting skills of a mother who leaves their kids behind for work. 

It is no doubt that being a full time working mom is accompanied by feelings of guilt and stress which are culminated by stigmatization by fellow nonworking moms and the society as a whole. However, the truth is, these moms have to juggle between work, which many at times means financial provision for their families and taking care of their children. For this reason, this particular criticism helps me learn more about criticism based on the following reasons.

Firstly, centered on the accusation of bad parenting skills, I learn that this particular criticism is primarily an evaluative criticism. This is because this criticism points out both the good and the bad things done by moms and particularly, the expectations of working moms by the society. Thus, this gives me the understanding that whether what you do is right or wrong in your own understanding, people are bound to adopt a critical stance, based on their own selfish benefits rather than defending you and the morality of what you do. 

Moreover, in this particular case, criticism is also elaborate when the non-working moms, who often infuriate and question the parenting skills of the working moms, become the subjects of the criticism. For instance, the working moms question the relevance of those mothers who claim to be full time, stay at home moms while their nannies do most of the house chores and taking care of their children. This happens while the self-proclaimed stay at home moms engage in other activities such as spending most of their time shopping, at the gym or other events at the cost of staying home with their children. For this reason, I learn that it is possible for criticism to imply blame. Critics articulate this by contending in a manner suggesting that those being criticized, in this case, both the stay at home moms and the working moms, are doing something wrong and which deserves “punishment.”

Working and being a mom

Clearly, the love for being a working mom is a choice that any mother can make and also ensure that she is successful in balancing both her work and her family life. Although difficult, and hence the criticism that comes with it, being a working mom does not necessarily imply that one is absconding their duties of a mother. When this is the case, some times being a working mom would mean being the sole financial provider for your family or being an equally positive contribution to the society as being the good caring mother you are at home. A good example of this would be doctors and nurses who are mothers. Thus, in a nutshell, the critics who infuriate working mothers and accuse them of bad parenting skills should put into consideration what the mother tries to accomplish by choosing to be a working mom, and with this considered, these sorts of negative criticisms will totally be uncalled for.

Basically, the role of being a mom is not easy. While at it, moms ensure that they perfect everything that they do for the well-being of their children and by so doing they prove themselves to be capable of the impossible. However, despite all the efforts that they exemplify, a stereotypic stigma surrounds working mothers since they are perceived as incompetent and ineffective in their motherhood practices. Additionally, while critics have in all aspects, tried to analyze and to paint a bad image of being a working mom, I believe that all this criticism is sometimes uncalled for. In my opinion what most people fail to understand is that there are times that mothers need to seek for employment and as a result become full-time working mothers since they are responsible for their families’ financial provisions.