Bullying is common among teens, a study was
found that every third kid in their teens either were bullied or were bully. But
whether these bullying behaviours contribute
to more aggressive and violent acts in the future is debatable, experts say. (Berstains)
Bullying is intolerable, it’s an
emotionally draining issue, lots of things have changed throughout the course
of time nevertheless, and bullying is still prominent in the world today. Bullying
has a real negative effect on the victim’s life. Those who are always bullied
can be pushed to the breaking point, where they could end up hurting themselves
or others. It is inhumane, and it needs to end. According to researchers at
National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, 30 percent of 6th
through 10th grade students are involved in bullying at school.
Students bully other because they are
insecure and unconfident, they use bullying tactics against who they think are
weak, unpopular and easily intimated. They want to impress their fellow class
mates and attain their attention by showing their power. According to the study
of Dr. Tonja Nansel, bullying was found to be more prominent among boys
compared to girls and was higher among 6th-8th graders.
He analyzed surveys of almost 16,000 students throughout the United States.
It was also found that a large number of
individuals who bully learns this behavior at home, very often a parent or
parents are bullies, angry and don’t handle conflict well. This same behavior
has been found in bullies. It is also studied that most of the bullies choose
to act this way is to get others attentions and to feel important, the
attention and importance that they can’t find at their home with their parents
and siblings. Bad upbringing is one of the most common cause of kids getting
involved and developing a bullying behavior.
Bullying can be done in different ways: Firstly,
the most common and dangerous kind of bullying in today’s time is
Cyber-bullying. It can be defined as “when the Internet, cell phones or other
devices are used to send or post text or images intended to hurt or embarrass
another person”. It is growing among adults and its becoming more
widespread because one can harass other with much less risk of being caught.
Cyberbullying includes sending, posting or sharing harmful, false and personal
information about someone else causing embarrassment or humiliation. Some
cyberbullies crosses the line into unlawful or criminal behaviors. It feels
like never ending, bullies can get to their target anytime and anywhere, often
in the safety of their own home.
Secondly, physical bullying which is very
obvious form of bullying such as kicking, slapping, punching, hitting, biting,
scratching and other physical attacks. It occurs when kids use physical action
to get control over their target. It is easy to identify, physical bullies are bigger,
aggressive, and stronger than their peers. It has received more attention from
school than other forms of bullying.
Thirdly, sexual bullying which is a very
serious and sensitive issue that needs to be tackled. It includes sexual name
calling, crude comments uninvited touching, vulgar gestures and pornographic
material. For Example, a bully might make an unacceptable comment about girl’s
appearance, sexual development or sexual activity. (Sherri Gordon) Most
commonly girls are the victim of sexual bullying both by boys and by other
girls. Boys might touch them inappropriate or unwillingly and on the other hand
girls might make fun of their appearance or called them “slut” or “tramp”.
“Bullying and being bullied appear to be
important indicators that something is wrong, and children who experience
either or both need help,” (Zinkivich)
Lastly, Bullying is a sad reality that
affects many people, I hope I just took some part of you back and made you
realize that bullying is specific. No two acts of bullying are the same because
bullying is always personal, always meant to strike home with the individual
person, to make the individual feel as if he/she is completely worthless to the
world. That is what a group of senior boys did to me this year, and I only got
through this year where my close friend was next to me.
I personally believe beside all the
anti-bullying campaigns in schools and elsewhere, a child upbringing and the
environment at home plays the most important role in any individual’s mindset
in dealing with bullies and whether or not to be one.